Teach Your Child to be Emotionally Smart
The “you’ll be alright” attitude that may have been instilled upon us as a child is a perspective that is quickly changing. Being emotionally intelligent is fast becoming a higher priority for employers when looking for that member of the team that stands out above the rest. If you want to guide your child towards future success, and to be a confident leader, secure in mind, body and soul, then here are some of our suggestions.
- Acknowledge your child’s feelings – let’s be honest, it’s not easy to stay calm in the middle of a behaviour melt-down, but the trick is to take a deep breath and try to understand what your little one is experiencing. Emotions are all a scatter and difficult to process at this age and so the best thing you can do to help is acknowledge what they might be feeling by describing some feeling words. It gets easier with practice – trust us!
- Acknowledge other’s feeling – make a point of talking about how others might be feeling.Recognise when someone looks sad, angry or happy and talk about why or what might have made them feel this way.
- Practice what you preach – keep your emotions in check when coping with your own meltdowns. Whether it is at home with the hubby or “behind the wheel,” remember that your child (no matter their age) is always watching and listening to everything you do and say.
- Respect – changing a nappy, dressing, feeding, having a bottle, these are the care moments.Make them a ritual and not a routine and give each moment the time it deserves. As adults’,our eating, drinking and sleeping habits are second nature and we do them without much thought. However, these moments are critical in a child’s day. They’re a matter of survival and the most important in a child’s day. By nurturing these care moments, through communication,respect and quality time you are also nurturing your child’s ability to self-regulate and develop a better understanding of themselves and in controlling their body.
- Love! Love! Love! – Resilience, a sense of security and self-confidence blossom when your child feels loved. Do this by focusing on your child’s strengths rather than weaknesses, or by acknowledging the wonderful things they do and “let go” of the little things that might frustrate you. Choose your battles; if your child decides they want to wear pyjamas to Nursery, will it really be the end of the world? Go easy and remember how many years they have been on this planet.